If someone came up to you and asked if you were a happy person, what would you say? Would you say yes with confidence? Would you frown a little bit and say no? Would you hesitate a little bit because you are unsure? Or would you lie to yourself and say you are happy, when deep down you know you're not? Below is a list of traits that every happy person has in common. Maybe some of these traits will resonate with you. Maybe some of these traits are things that you need to apply to your life more. This post will probably be a long one, so be prepared to read a lot, but what I hope is that when you are done reading this, you will hopefully gain a better understanding of yourself and what happiness means to you.
They love themselves for who they are. That includes their weaknesses.
Happy people don't care about what others think about them. They don't go to others for approval or satisfaction. They love themselves for who they are. They understand and accept the fact that everyone has their own weaknesses so they make the best out of life with the strengths that they have.
They view problems as a challenge to overcome.
When they are faced with a problem, instead of living in fear and running away from it, they view it as a challenge, an obstacle, that they must overcome with confidence.
They take responsibility for everything in their life, including their own emotions.
Happy people aren't going to play the blame game, act like victims, or complain about every difficult situation. They understand that they are responsible for their own happiness. Instead of blaming someone else for making them miserable and unhappy, they create their own happiness from within, no matter what the situation is. They have have a strong control over themselves and their feelings. They like to live as a master over their emotions, rather than be a slave to them.
They are true to themselves.
Happy people stay true to themselves. They don't fall into what society thinks of them or how society wants them to be. They stick to who they are and who they want to be. They don't base themselves from what other people want or what their values are. They stay true to their own values and do what they believe is right and they stay true to what they love. They don't care about what criticisms or judgments that society has to offer. Their self worth is a reflection of who they are and how they choose to live. Not what they own, who they know, where they live, or what they look like. They are their own person who enjoys expressing their own uniqueness.
They don't chase happiness.
Happy people know that if you view happiness as a destination or a place to you must reach, that you will be chasing it for the rest of your life. They understand that happiness comes from within. Not by how much money you have, not by what things they own, and not what by what situations they think should happen in their life. They appreciate the things that they have, rather than focusing on the things they don't have or what they could have. They understand that happiness is part of the journey, not the destination.
They laugh and smile. A lot.
It could even be the most stupidest of things, and they will laugh at it as though it was a hilarious joke. Even during difficult times, they have learned to laugh at themselves and the mistakes that they have made. They understand that life isn't meant to be taken seriously, so they take their issues and things that happen to them lightheartedly and laugh at them a little. They know if you can find humor in any situation, you automatically win.
They are life long learners.
Happy people take every situation and learn from it. Even if they are in the most difficult situation, they find ways of turning it into a positive experience by learning something from it and becoming a better them. Life is their school.
They expect less and give more.
They don't expect much from other people, because they are happy with what they have. Instead, happy people find pleasure in sharing their happiness with others and making someone else smile and be happy. They understand what it's like to be down in the dumps.
They love unconditionally.
Happy people aren't going to hate someone just because they don't agree with what someone else does or think. They understand that the only way to drive out hate, anger, and fear is to love. Love unconditionally. They don't judge or criticize someone because they understand that everyone tries as hard as they can in their life with the level of consciousness, understanding, and awareness that they have. Instead of hating people for their actions, beliefs, or flaws they learn to love people because they too have opinions, flaws and problems just like everyone else. They respect the fact that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and perspective. They have learned to see beauty in everyone.
They live in the present.
Instead of being stuck in the past, or worrying too much about the future, happy people focus on whats important. The now. They understand that the only time in the world that they have to do things, is right now. They understand that what is in the past, is in the past for a reason. And if they are worrying too much about the future, then you are worrying about something that hasn't even happened yet. They focus on what they can do right now. Because the only way to change the future, is to focus on the present. They bring their awareness to the present and embrace the Now!
They prefer deep conversations rather than simple small talk.
Happy people prefer to look at the bigger picture in life. They don't care about all the drama that happens or the simple small talks. They like to put their focus on things that actually matter in the long run. They sacrifice short-term pleasures for long term happiness.
They try to be a better them, rather than being better than others.
They understand that the only person you should be comparing yourself to, is the person you were yesterday. No one else. They know that if you were to compare yourself to other people, that would only create insecurities and jealousy. Don't try to be better than everyone else. Just be a better you.
They look within themselves when in need of a solution.
Every now and then it's nice to go to someone when you are in desperate need of help, but happy people understand that the only person who knows you best, is you. If you want a solution to a problem, you must look within yourself and you will find the answer. Follow love.
They view relationships as an extension to the human experience, rather than a necessity.
Happy people understand that if someone feels constantly lonely and feels the need to constantly have people in their life, its most likely because they don't want to be left alone with the one person they hate, themselves. If you learn to love yourself, then having people in your life becomes a choice rather than a necessity.
They accept what cannot be changed.
They know that if there is a situation that they cannot physically change, the only way to make it better is by simply changing their perspective about it, and changing the way they view the situation into something more positive and move on.
They tend to be more spiritual people.
Happy people tend to be more spiritual because they have become aware of their connection to everything around them. They look at everything around them as equals. This includes people, animals, plants, our planet, and the universe as a whole. They have awakened to the oneness of the universe.
Personally, I can confidently say that I am an all around happy person. Sometimes I'll slip and fall every now and then, but thankfully I have wonderful friends that remind me of how far I have gotten.
Now I'm not here typing out this long post just to boast about my own happiness. I am sending this message to all of YOU, because I know way to many people who are stuck in depression, who hate themselves, who hate the people and the world around them, who are blocked by fear, who can't face their insecurities, who judge and criticize constantly, and who have become SLAVES to their own minds.
I want all of you to know, that every day, when you wake up, you have a choice. You can either wake up and be a victim or you can wake up and be a winner. You can either wake up and hate the world or you can wake up and love everything for what it is. You either can wake up and cower in fear in the comfort of your own home or you can wake up and step out of your comfort zone. You can either wake up and care about what everyone else thinks about you or you can wake up be yourself for once, and not be afraid to do so. The only person in the entire universe who can make you happy and whole is YOU! YOU alone have the power to make yourself happy and free from the chains of hate and fear. If you are tired of being miserable, angry and insecure then I want all of you, right now, to stand up, and from the deepest part of your heart and soul, yell at the top of your lungs "STARTING TODAY, I AM CHOOSING TO BE HAPPY DAMMIT!"
The mind is a terrible master, but a wonderful servant. You have a choice. Choose wisely.
I love you all. Namasté <3
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